[DWJ] Dorian: progress report and request

Hallie O'Donovan hallieod at gmail.com
Thu Aug 3 08:25:04 EDT 2017


It is, actually, by adoption. But they know her as both that and her official name, Grainne Duncan, so either will work! 

Hallie 

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> On 3 Aug 2017, at 11:57, Meredith MacArdle via Dwj <dwj at suberic.net> wrote:
> 
> thanks for the update on Dorian. What's her surname please? It's not Gray
> is it?
> 
> cheers, Meredith
> 
>> On 3 August 2017 at 08:34, Hallie O'Donovan <hallieod at gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>> All of you on Facebook will probably know the update information about
>> Dorian, but not the request, so I'll put that first.
>> 
>> Her birthday is 12th August, and unfortunately Patrick, her parents and
>> her brother will all be away then. (Good thing I never get away these days,
>> I guess!) I thought it might be nice if she got mail, at least, which would
>> be unexpected and something to lift the boredom of a low-visitor stretch.
>> So if anyone felt like it, a card, postcard, voluminous letter... she can
>> read it and I'm sure would appreciate it.
>> 
>> The address is:
>> St Doolagh's Park Care and Rehabilitation Centre
>> Malahide Rd
>> Balgriffin
>> Dublin 17
>> D17 YE97
>> Ireland
>> 
>> If there hasn't been anything from Patrick on FB about his being away, it
>> might be nice if someone spread the request on other groups like The Ladies
>> Loos or Girlsown?  That's just vague memory of other online communities she
>> was active in, so feel free to suggest others, or whatever.
>> 
>> Now for the update. The observant will have noticed that her address is
>> not a hospital, but a rehab centre - nursing home - call it what you will.
>> She had her stint in the National Rehabilitation Hospital, and this is
>> where she'll stay until she and Patrick can get a new, suitably adapted
>> house, as theirs can't be adapted. There's much less therapy than in the
>> rehab hospital, so there was some concern that she'd make less progress in
>> St Doolagh's, but happily that's not been the case.
>> 
>> She is deaf (this was discovered towards the end of her stay in the
>> primary care hospital where she spent the first year and a half, but no
>> idea whether it was an immediate effect of the accident or not), so we and
>> the staff write on a whiteboard to communicate with her. It does limit her
>> interaction with other residents, though she might be fine with that
>> anyway! Enforced togetherness is so not Dorian's thing. She's talking much
>> more now, and it can be hard to understand now she's moved beyond one word
>> answers to questions, 'no idea', and 'get me out of here!'. Luckily she
>> usually finds it funny when we don't understand, rather than getting
>> frustrated. And it's just wonderful when she's able to laugh at you - or
>> herself. Her mother and I took her on a shopping trip (unsuccessful), got
>> stuck for a wheelchair accessible taxi, and ended up walking back to
>> theirs. Patrick told her not to worry, that he'd brought out the posh milk
>> pitcher because I was there, and she raised her eyebrow and asked if they
>> had one. Getting a smirk or laugh out of her is just the best.
>> 
>> She still has some trouble turning pages on a book, and ereaders don't
>> work yet, but we really hope they'll be able to get her set up with some
>> kind of special keyboard that will give her the ability to read properly on
>> her own. Even her short term memory is improved, though still not as good
>> as long term.
>> 
>> Now the criminal case against the driver is finally settled, the claims
>> can proceed, and Patrick has been told it will probably take about a year
>> for that to happen. Then she can move home, please God and doing all the
>> witchy dances for luck. Patrick and her parents are fantastic, truly.
>> Patrick even gave up smoking for Dorian's sake: no greater love! (I am
>> supporting him in this after carefully checking whether he wanted that or
>> would feel I was being a 'managing female'. Dorian would have got the
>> reference,  but Patrick thought it was funny after it was explained.)
>> Dorian is very much Dorian still, to the profound relief of those who love
>> her.
>> 
>> Hallie
>> 
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