schwartzbergj at newberry.org
Wed May 16 01:15:59 EDT 2007
Oh dear. I adore my mother. She may not be perfect, who is? but she's pretty fabulous. I wouldn't be the person I am without her. While I know, from DWJ's autobiographical essay and other sources that she had dreadful parents and that influences how she treats parents in her fiction, I also suspect that she must have been a great mother. After all, she began writing to give her kids good books to read!
So it's possible to be a far better parent than one's parents, if one had bad parents. As a family historian, I do see how parenting patterns repeat, and since my family tends to have good family relationships, there are a lot of good parent-kid relationships among my cousins. I'm also sorry to report that once a bad parent-kid relationship is established, it tends to repeat through the generations, unless there's a lot of intervention and determined reaction against being like one's parents.
I guess all of this is off-topic, but DWJ's depiction of family relationships has always fascinated me, being so alien to my own experiences.
> None of us has a perfect mother. Some of us have good
> mothers, but many of us don't. I think if there's something
> to blame -- like interest in something other than us, the
> children -- then it's going to get blamed.
> I do know that we all deserve perfect parents and we none
> of us get them. We get people like us for parents.
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