Deep Secret, Spoiler Space, Merlin

Emma Comerford emmaco at
Mon Apr 28 20:47:35 EDT 2003

At 12:25  28/04/03 +0100, minnow at wrote:
>Christian wrote:
> >>On Fri, 25 Apr 2003, Hallie O'Donovan wrote:
> >> > Erm.  'Faithfully married' except that Zinka had an affair with
> >> > Rupert, and I think it was implied that it was after she was married,
> >> > right?  Or possibly not, but Rupert's clearly upset at the news that
> >> > Zinka and Simon (it is Simon, isn't it?  My book's not here for
> >> > checking) have been married for a couple of years.
> >meant to respond to this earlier.
> >zinka and rupert had some sort of relationship *before* she married simon. i
> >don't know if you mean "affair" in the sense of "cheating" but that's what
> >it almost always means in the US (but i don't think so elsewhere, does it?)
>I don't think "affair" carries particularly negative baggage in
>general-usage English English nowadays, unless it has a negative qualifier
>like "clandestine" or "illicit" or "hole-in-corner" or some such.  It's
>just a fairly neutral way of saying "more than just good friends but not
>very serious", where one would say "relationship" if the people were seeing
>or sleeping with each other regularly and to the exclusion of other
>partners, living on the same premises with goods held in common, or had
>children, but hadn't gone through a ceremony of marriage.  "Relationship"
>might indicate fidelity; "affair" wouldn't but wouldn't necessarily suggest
>promiscuity.  What would the word in US English for seeing each other
>occasionally, possibly with sex but without any particular intention of
>permanence, and without either guilt or blame being implied?

I would use affair in this sense, but after asking accessible family and 
friends I found they all see affair as having negative connotations and 
"fling" seems to be the word most popular for a more temporary/casual 

Emma (Australia)

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